Do you ever find yourself over committed and struggling to get it all done, at a reasonable standard? Rushing at the last minute to finish off something you promised to do? Wishing you had said no and turned the request down? Me too! So I’m going to share with you 3 ways to say no without feeling guilty.
This is the second post in my ‘How to have a Stress Free Christmas’ series, but these can be used at any time of the year!
Saying no isn’t always so easy, you end up wishing you had, but you feel put on the spot and backed into a corner.
You know you and your time will be overstretched, burnout looming.
Feeling uncomfortable, emotional and regretting not standing up for yourself are all the result of not saying no when you know you should.
So how to say no without feeling guilty….
No1 – The ‘doing them a favour’ approach
You know, I love the sound of that, but I really don’t think I could fit it in by then and I would hate to rush it and mess it up for you.
They don’t want their precious XYZ project to be a flop, so will gladly not want to give you the job if you make a disaster a possibility!
No2 – The ‘I know a perfect person’ approach
Oh wow, that sounds great! However my skills don’t really stretch to that, but I can recommend Maggie Smith, she’d be the perfect person to do that!
Cushion a let down with a better solution and they will love you for it! If Maggie really is the better person for the job, then she will most likely love you too, for being given the opportunity to showcase her talents!
No3 – The ‘alternative’ approach
Oh crikey! I have to be honest, I’m really not confident about doing ABC, how about I do XYZ instead, that’s much more up my street.
Just like approach No1 they will be more than happy to give you an alternative task if it means it won’t be messed up.
Say No! Without feeling guilty
With all of these suggestions, you get to say no without feeling guilty because you are actually doing them a favour.
At the end of the day your honesty will be appreciated, and you get to avoid the guilt.
You also get to avoid the stress of a rush job that you aren’t comfortable doing.
It does take a bit of quick thinking, but with these in the back of your mind, you are equipped with the tools that you need to say no without feeling guilty.
It’s especially useful at this time of year too, with preparing for Christmas. So many jobs to do and time flies so quickly, the last thing you need is to be railroaded into extra tasks.
I’d love to know if you try any of these, or if you have more suggestions of ways to say no without feeling guilty! Please drop a comment below and let me know!
Until next time, Pixie love! xx